by Jeffrey R. Holland
Jeffrey R. Holland was president of Brigham
Young University when this devotional address was delivered on 12 January 1988
in the Marriott Center.
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This responsibility to speak to you never gets any easier for me. I think it
gets more difficult as the years go by. I grow a little older, the world and its
litany of problems get a little more complex, and your hopes and dreams become
evermore important to me the longer I am at BYU. Indeed, your growth and
happiness and development in the life you are now living and in the life you
will be living in the days and decades ahead are the central and most compelling
motivation in my daily professional life. I care very much about you now and
forever. Everything I know to do at BYU is being done with an eye toward who and
what you are, and who and what you can become. The future of this world's
history will be quite fully in your hands very soon--at least your portion of it
will be--and an education at an institution sponsored and guided by The Church
of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is the greatest academic advantage I can
imagine in preparation for such a serious and significant
responsibility.
But that future, at least any qualitative aspect of it,
must be vigorously fought for. It won't "just happen" to your advantage. Someone
said once that the future is waiting to be seized, and if we do not grasp it
firmly, then other hands, more determined and bloody than our own, will wrench
it from us and follow a different course.
It is with an eye to that
future--your future--and an awareness of this immense sense of responsibility I
feel for you, that I approach this annual midyear devotional message. I always
need the help and sustaining Spirit of the Lord to succeed at such times, but I
especially feel the need for that spiritual help today.
My topic is that of human intimacy, a topic as sacred as any I know and more
sacred than anything I have ever addressed from this podium. If I am not careful
and you are not supportive, this subject can slide quickly from the sacred into
the merely sensational, and I would be devastated if that happened. It would be
better not to address the topic at all than to damage it with casualness or
carelessness. Indeed, it is against such casualness and carelessness that I wish
to speak. So I ask for your faith and your prayers and your respect.
You
may feel this is a topic you hear addressed too frequently at this time in your
life, but given the world in which we live, you may not be hearing it enough.
All of the prophets, past and present, have spoken on it, and President Benson
himself addressed this very subject in his annual message to this student body
last fall.
I am thrilled that most of you are doing wonderfully well in
the matter of personal purity. There isn't as worthy and faithful a group of
university students anywhere else on the face of the earth. You are an
inspiration to me. I acknowledge your devotion to the gospel and applaud it.
Like Jacob of old, I would prefer for the sake of the innocent not to need to
discuss such topics. But a few of you are not doing so well, and much of the
world around us is not doing well at all.
The national press recently
noted,
In America 3,000 adolescents become pregnant each day. A
million a year. Four out of five are unmarried. More than half get abortions.
"Babies having babies."[Babies] killing [babies]. ["What's Gone Wrong
with Teen Sex," People,13 April 1987, p. 111]
That same national
poll indicated nearly 60 percent of high school students in "mainstream" America
had lost their virginity, and 80 percent of college students had. The Wall
Street Journal (hardly in a class with the National Enquirer)
recently wrote,
AIDS [appears to be reaching] plague[like]
proportions. Even now it is claiming innocent victims: newborn babies and
recipients of blood transfusions. It is only a matter of time before it becomes
widespread among heterosexuals. . . .
AIDS should remind us that ours is
a hostile world. . . . The more we pass ourselves around, the larger the
likelihood of our picking something up. . . .
Whether on clinical or
moral grounds, it seems clear that promiscuity has its price. [Wall
Street Journal, 21 May 1987, p. 28]
Of course, more widespread in our
society than the indulgence of personal sexual activity are the printed and
photographed descriptions of those who do. Of that lustful environment a
contemporary observer says,
We live in an age in which voyeurism is no
longer the side line of the solitary deviate, but rather a national pastime,
fully institutionalized and [circularized] in the mass media. [William F.
May, quoted by Henry Fairlie, The Seven Deadly Sins Today (Notre Dame:
University of Notre Dame Press, 1978), p. 178]
In fact, the rise of
civilization seems, ironically enough, to have made actual or fantasized
promiscuity a greater, not a lesser, problem. Edward Gibbon, the distinguished
British historian of the eighteenth century who wrote one of the most
intimidating works of history in our language (The Decline and Fall of the
Roman Empire), said simply,
Although the progress of civilisation
has undoubtedly contributed to assuage the fiercer passions of human nature, it
seems to have been less favourable to the virtue of chastity. . . . The
refinements of life [seem to] corrupt, [even as] they polish
the [relationship] of the sexes. [Edward Gibbon, The Decline and
Fall of the Roman Empire, vol. 40 of Great Books of the Western
World, 1952, p. 92]
I do not wish us to spend this hour documenting
social problems nor wringing our hands over the dangers that such outside
influences may hold for us. As serious as such contemporary realities are, I
wish to discuss this topic in quite a different way, discuss it specifically for
Latter-day Saints--primarily young, unmarried Latter-day Saints, even those
attending Brigham Young University. So I conspicuously set aside the horrors of
AIDS and national statistics on illegitimate pregnancies and speak rather to a
gospel-based view of personal purity.
Indeed, I wish to do something even
a bit more difficult than listing the do's and don'ts of personal purity. I wish
to speak, to the best of my ability, on why we should be clean, on
why moral discipline is such a significant matter in God's eyes. I know
that may sound presumptuous, but a philosopher once said, tell me sufficiently
why a thing should be done, and I will move heaven and earth to do it. Hoping
you will feel the same way as he and fully recognizing my limitations, I wish to
try to give at least a partial answer to "Why be morally clean?" I will need
first to pose briefly what I see as the doctrinal seriousness of the matter
before then offering just three reasons for such seriousness.
May I begin with half of a nine-line poem by Robert Frost. (The other half is
worth a sermon also, but it will have to wait for another day.) Here are the
first four lines of Frost's "Fire and Ice."
Some say the world will
end in fire,
Some say in ice.
From what I've tasted of desire
I hold
with those who favor fire.
A second, less poetic but more specific
opinion is offered by the writer of Proverbs:
Can a man take fire in
his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
Can one go upon hot coals, and
his feet not be burned? . . .
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman
lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
A wound
and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
[Proverbs 6:27-33]
In getting at the doctrinal seriousness, why is this
matter of sexual relationships so severe that fire is almost always the
metaphor, with passion pictured vividly in flames? What is there in the
potentially hurtful heat of this that leaves one's soul--or perhaps the whole
world, according to Frost--destroyed, if that flame is left unchecked and those
passions unrestrained? What is there in all of this that prompts Alma to warn
his son Corianton that sexual transgression is "an abomination in the sight of
the Lord; yea, most abominable above all sins save it be the shedding of
innocent blood or denying the Holy Ghost" (Alma 39:5; emphasis
added)?
Setting aside sins against the Holy Ghost for a moment as a
special category unto themselves, it is LDS doctrine that sexual transgression
is second only to murder in the Lord's list of life's most serious sins. By
assigning such rank to a physical appetite so conspicuously evident in all of
us, what is God trying to tell us about its place in his plan for all men and
women in mortality? I submit to you he is doing precisely that--commenting about
the very plan of life itself. Clearly God's greatest concerns regarding
mortality are how one gets into this world and how one gets out of it. These two
most important issues in our very personal and carefully supervised progress are
the two issues that he as our Creator and Father and Guide wishes most to
reserve to himself. These are the two matters that he has repeatedly told us he
wants us never to take illegally, illicitly, unfaithfully, without
sanction.
As for the taking of life, we are generally quite
responsible. Most people, it seems to me, readily sense the sanctity of life and
as a rule do not run up to friends, put a loaded revolver to their heads, and
cavalierly pull the trigger. Furthermore, when there is a click of the hammer
rather than an explosion of lead, and a possible tragedy seems to have been
averted, no one in such a circumstance would be so stupid as to sigh, "Oh, good.
I didn't go all the way."
No, "all the way" or not, the insanity of such
action with fatal powder and steel is obvious on the face of it. Such a person
running about this campus with an arsenal of loaded handguns or military
weaponry aimed at fellow students would be apprehended, prosecuted, and
institutionalized if in fact such a lunatic would not himself have been killed
in all the pandemonium. After such a fictitious moment of horror on this campus
(and you are too young to remember my college years when the sniper
wasn't fictitious, killing twelve of his fellow students at the
University of Texas), we would undoubtedly sit in our dorms or classrooms with
terror on our minds for many months to come, wondering how such a thing could
possibly happen--especially here at BYU.
No, fortunately, in the case of
how life is taken, I think we seem to be quite responsible. The seriousness of
that does not often have to be spelled out, and not many sermons need to be
devoted to it.
But in the significance and sanctity of giving life, some
of us are not so responsible, and in the larger world swirling around us we find
near criminal irresponsibility. What would in the case of taking life bring
absolute horror and demand grim justice, in the case of giving life brings dirty
jokes and four-letter lyrics and crass carnality on the silver screen,
home-owned or downtown.
Is such moral turpitude so wrong? That question
has always been asked, usually by the guilty. "Such is the way of an adulterous
woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness"
(Proverbs 30:20). No murder here. Well, maybe not. But sexual transgression? "He
that doeth it destroyeth his own soul." Sounds near fatal to me.
So much
for the doctrinal seriousness. Now, with a desire to prevent such painful
moments, to avoid what Alma called the "inexpressible horror" of standing in the
presence of God unworthily, and to permit the intimacy it is your right and
privilege and delight to enjoy in marriage to be untainted by such crushing
remorse and guilt--I wish to give those three reasons I mentioned earlier as to
why I believe this is an issue of such magnitude and consequence.
First, we simply must understand the revealed, restored Latter-day Saint
doctrine of the soul, and the high and inextricable part the body plays in that
doctrine. One of the "plain and precious" truths restored to this dispensation
is that "the spirit and the body are the soul of man" (D&C88:15;
emphasis added) and that when the spirit and body are separated, men and women
"cannot receive a fulness of joy" (D&C93:34). Certainly that suggests
something of the reason why obtaining a body is so fundamentally important to
the plan of salvation in the first place, why sin of any kind is such a serious
matter (namely because its automatic consequence is death, the separation of the
spirit from the body and the separation of the spirit and the body from God),
and why the resurrection of the body is so central to the great abiding and
eternal triumph of Christ's atonement. We do not have to be a herd of
demonically possessed swine charging down the Gadarene slopes toward the sea to
understand that a body is the great prize of mortal life, and that even a
pig's will do for those frenzied spirits that rebelled, and to this day remain
dispossessed, in their first, unembodied estate.
May I quote a 1913
sermon by Elder James E. Talmage on this doctrinal point:
We have been
taught . . . to look upon these bodies of ours as gifts from God. We Latter-day
Saints do not regard the body as something to be condemned, something to be
abhorred. . . . We regard [the body] as the sign of our royal birthright. . . .
We recognize . . . that those who kept not their first estate . . . were denied
that inestimable blessing. . . . We believe that these bodies . . . may be made,
in very truth, the temple of the Holy Ghost. . . .
It is peculiar to the
theology of the Latter-day Saints that we regard the body as an essential part
of the soul. Read your dictionaries, the lexicons, and encyclopedias, and you
will find that nowhere [in Christianity], outside of the Church of Jesus Christ,
is the solemn and eternal truth taught that the soul of man is the body and the
spirit combined. [CR, October 1913, p. 117]
So partly in
answer to why such seriousness, we answer that one toying with the
God-given--and satanically coveted--body of another, toys with the very soul of
that individual, toys with the central purpose and product of life, "the very
key" to life, as Elder Boyd K. Packer once called it. In trivializing the soul
of another (please include the word body there), we trivialize the
Atonement that saved that soul and guaranteed its continued existence. And when
one toys with the Son of Righteousness, the Day Star himself, one toys with
white heat and a flame hotter and holier than the noonday sun. You cannot do so
and not be burned. You cannot with impunity "crucify Christ afresh" (see Hebrews
6:6). Exploitation of the body (please include the word soul there) is,
in the last analysis, an exploitation of him who is the Light and the Life of
the world. Perhaps here Paul's warning to the Corinthians takes on newer, higher
meaning:
Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and
the Lord for the body. . . .
Know ye not that your bodies are the members
of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of
an harlot? God forbid. . . .
Flee fornication. . . . He that committeth
fornication sinneth against his own body. . . .
. . . Know ye not that
your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God,
and ye are not your own?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore
glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. [1
Corinthians 6:13-20; emphasis added]
Our soul is what's at stake
here--our spirit and our body. Paul understood that doctrine of the soul
every bit as well as James E. Talmage did, because it is gospel truth. The
purchase price for our fullness of joy--body and spirit eternally united--is the
pure and innocent blood of the Savior of this world. We cannot then say
in ignorance or defiance, "Well, it's my life," or worse yet, "It's
my body." It is not. "Ye are not your own," Paul said. "Ye are
bought with a price." So in answer to the question, "Why does God care so much
about sexual transgression?" it is partly because of the precious gift offered
by and through his Only Begotten Son to redeem the souls--bodies and
spirits--we too often share and abuse in cheap and tawdry ways. Christ restored
the very seeds of eternal lives (see D&C132:19, 24), and we desecrate them
at our peril. The first key reason for personal purity? Our very souls
are involved and at stake.
Second, may I suggest that human intimacy, that sacred, physical union
ordained of God for a married couple, deals with a symbol that demands
special sanctity. Such an act of love between a man and a woman is--or certainly
was ordained to be--a symbol of total union: union of their hearts, their hopes,
their lives, their love, their family, their future, their everything. It is a
symbol that we try to suggest in the temple with a word like seal. The
Prophet Joseph Smith once said we perhaps ought to render such a sacred bond as
"welding"--that those united in matrimony and eternal families are "welded"
together, inseparable if you will, to withstand the temptations of the adversary
and the afflictions of mortality. (See D&C 128:18.)
But such a total,
virtually unbreakable union, such an unyielding commitment between a man and a
woman, can only come with the proximity and permanence afforded in a marriage
covenant, with the union of all that they possess--their very hearts and
minds, all their days and all their dreams. They work together, they cry
together, they enjoy Brahms and Beethoven and breakfast together, they sacrifice
and save and live together for all the abundance that such a totally intimate
life provides such a couple. And the external symbol of that union, the physical
manifestation of what is a far deeper spiritual and metaphysical bonding, is the
physical blending that is part of--indeed, a most beautiful and gratifying
expression of--that larger, more complete union of eternal purpose and
promise.
As delicate as it is to mention in such a setting, I
nevertheless trust your maturity to understand that physiologically we are
created as men and women to fit together in such a union. In this ultimate
physical expression of one man and one woman they are as nearly and as literally
"one" as two separate physical bodies can ever be. It is in that act of ultimate
physical intimacy we most nearly fulfill the commandment of the Lord given to
Adam and Eve, living symbols for all married couples, when he invited them to
cleave unto one another only, and thus become "one flesh" (Genesis
2:24).
Obviously, such a commandment to these two, the first husband and
wife of the human family, has unlimited implications--social, cultural, and
religious as well as physical--but that is exactly my point. As all
couples come to that moment of bonding in mortality, it is to be just such a
complete union. That commandment cannot be fulfilled, and that symbolism of "one
flesh" cannot be preserved, if we hastily and guiltily and surreptitiously share
intimacy in a darkened corner of a darkened hour, then just as hastily and
guiltily and surreptitiously retreat to our separate worlds--not to eat or live
or cry or laugh together, not to do the laundry and the dishes and the homework,
not to manage a budget and pay the bills and tend the children and plan together
for the future. No, we cannot do that until we are truly one--united, bound,
linked, tied, welded, sealed, married.
Can you see then the moral
schizophrenia that comes from pretending we are one, sharing the physical
symbols and physical intimacy of our union, but then fleeing, retreating,
severing all such other aspects--and symbols--of what was meant to be a total
obligation, only to unite again furtively some other night or, worse yet,
furtively unite (and you can tell how cynically I use that word) with some other
partner who is no more bound to us, no more one with us than the last was or
than the one that will come next week or next month or next year or anytime
before the binding commitments of marriage?
You must wait--you must wait
until you can give everything, and you cannot give everything until you are at
least legally and, for Latter-day Saint purposes, eternally pronounced as one.
To give illicitly that which is not yours to give (remember--"you are not your
own") and to give only part of that which cannot be followed with the gift of
your whole heart and your whole life and your whole self is its own form of
emotional Russian roulette. If you persist in sharing part without the whole, in
pursuing satisfaction devoid of symbolism, in giving parts and pieces and
inflamed fragments only, you run the terrible risk of such spiritual, psychic
damage that you may undermine both your physical intimacy and your
wholehearted devotion to a truer, later love. You may come to that moment of
real love, of total union, only to discover to your horror that
what you should have saved has been spent, and--mark my words--only God's grace
can recover that piecemeal dissipation of your virtue.
A good Latter-day
Saint friend, Dr. Victor L. Brown, Jr., has written of this
issue:
Fragmentation enables its users to counterfeit intimacy. . .
.
If we relate to each other in fragments, at best we miss full
relationships. At worst, we manipulate and exploit others for our gratification.
Sexual fragmentation can be particularly harmful because it gives powerful
physiological rewards which, though illusory, can temporarily persuade us to
overlook the serious deficits in the overall relationship. Two people may marry
for physical gratification and then discover that the illusion of union
collapses under the weight of intellectual, social, and spiritual
incompatibilities. . . .
Sexual fragmentation is particularly harmful
because it is particularly deceptive. The intense human intimacy that should be
enjoyed in and symbolized by sexual union is counterfeited by sensual episodes
which suggest--but cannot deliver--acceptance, understanding, and love. Such
encounters mistake the end for the means as lonely, desperate people seek a
common denominator which will permit the easiest, quickest gratification.
[Victor L. Brown, Jr., Human Intimacy: Illusion and Reality (Salt Lake
City, Utah: Parliament Publishers, 1981), pp. 5-6]
Listen to a far more
biting observation by a non-Latter-day Saint regarding such acts devoid of both
the soul and symbolism we have been discussing. He writes:
Our
sexuality has been animalized, stripped of the intricacy of feeling with which
human beings have endowed it, leaving us to contemplate only the act, and to
fear our impotence in it. It is this animalization from which the sexual manuals
cannot escape, even when they try to do so, because they are reflections of it.
They might [as well] be textbooks for veterinarians. [Fairlie,
Seven Deadly Sins, p. 182]
In this matter of counterfeit intimacy
and deceptive gratification, I express particular caution to the men who hear
this message. I have heard all my life that it is the young woman who has to
assume the responsibility for controlling the limits of intimacy in courtship
because a young man cannot. What an unacceptable response to such a serious
issue! What kind of man is he, what priesthood or power or strength or
self-control does this man have that lets him develop in society, grow to the
age of mature accountability, perhaps even pursue a university education and
prepare to affect the future of colleagues and kingdoms and the course of the
world, but yet does not have the mental capacity or the moral will to say, "I
will not do that thing"? No, this sorry drugstore psychology would have us say,
"He just can't help himself. His glands have complete control over his life--his
mind, his will, his entire future."
To say that a young woman in such a
relationship has to bear her responsibility and that of the young man's too is
the least fair assertion I can imagine. In most instances if there is sexual
transgression, I lay the burden squarely on the shoulders of the young man--for
our purposes probably a priesthood bearer--and that's where I believe God
intended responsibility to be. In saying that I do not excuse young women who
exercise no restraint and have not the character or conviction to demand
intimacy only in its rightful role. I have had enough experience in Church
callings to know that women as well as men can be predatory. But I refuse to buy
some young man's feigned innocence who wants to sin and call it
psychology.
Indeed, most tragically, it is the young woman who is most
often the victim, it is the young woman who most often suffers the greater pain,
it is the young woman who most often feels used and abused and terribly unclean.
And for that imposed uncleanliness a man will pay, as surely as the sun sets and
rivers run to the sea.
Note the prophet Jacob's straightforward language
on this account in the Book of Mormon. After a bold confrontation on the subject
of sexual transgression among the Nephites, he quotes Jehovah:
For
behold, I, the Lord, have seen the sorrow, and heard the mourning of the
daughters of my people in the land. . . .
And I will not suffer, saith
the Lord of Hosts, that the cries of the fair daughters of this people .
. . shall come up unto me against the men of my people, saith the Lord of
Hosts.
For they shall not lead away captive the daughters of my
people because of their tenderness, save I shall visit them with a sore curse,
even unto destruction. [Jacob 2:31-33; emphasis added]
Don't be
deceived and don't be destroyed. Unless such fire is controlled, your clothes
and your future will be burned. And your world, short of painful and perfect
repentance, will go up in flames. I give that to you on good word--I give it to
you on God's word.
That leads me to my last reason, a third effort to say why. After
soul and symbol, the word is sacrament, a term closely
related to the other two. Sexual intimacy is not only a symbolic union between a
man and a woman--the uniting of their very souls--but it is also symbolic of a
union between mortals and deity, between otherwise ordinary and fallible humans
uniting for a rare and special moment with God himself and all the powers by
which he gives life in this wide universe of ours.
In this latter sense,
human intimacy is a sacrament, a very special kind of symbol. For our purpose
here today, a sacrament could be any one of a number of gestures or acts or
ordinances that unite us with God and his limitless powers. We are imperfect and
mortal; he is perfect and immortal. But from time to time--indeed, as often as
is possible and appropriate--we find ways and go to places and create
circumstances where we can unite symbolically with him, and in so doing gain
access to his power. Those special moments of union with God are sacramental
moments--such as kneeling at a marriage altar, or blessing a newborn baby, or
partaking of the emblems of the Lord's supper. This latter ordinance is the one
we in the Church have come to associate most traditionally with the word
sacrament, though it is technically only one of many such moments when we
formally take the hand of God and feel his divine power.
These are
moments when we quite literally unite our will with God's will, our spirit with
his spirit, where communion through the veil becomes very real. At such moments
we not only acknowledge his divinity, but we quite literally take something of
that divinity to ourselves. Such are the holy sacraments.
Now, once
again, I know of no one who would, for example, rush into the middle of a
sacramental service, grab the linen from the tables, throw the bread the full
length of the room, tip the water trays onto the floor, and laughingly retreat
from the building to await an opportunity to do the same thing at another
worship service the next Sunday. No one within the sound of my voice would do
that during one of the truly sacred moments of our religious worship. Nor would
anyone here violate any of the other sacramental moments in our lives, those
times when we consciously claim God's power and by invitation stand with him in
privilege and principality.
But I wish to stress with you this morning,
as my third of three reasons to be clean, that sexual union is also, in its own
profound way, a very real sacrament of the highest order, a union not only of a
man and a woman but very much the union of that man and woman with God. Indeed,
if our definition of sacrament is that act of claiming and sharing and
exercising God's own inestimable power, then I know of virtually no other
divine privilege so routinely given to us all--women or men, ordained or
unordained, Latter-day Saint or non-Latter-day Saint--than the miraculous and
majestic power of transmitting life, the unspeakable, unfathomable, unbroken
power of procreation. There are those special moments in your lives when the
other, more formal ordinances of the gospel--the sacraments, if you will--allow
you to feel the grace and grandeur of God's power. Many are one-time experiences
(such as our own confirmation or our own marriage), and some are repeatable
(such as administering to the sick or doing ordinance work for others in the
temple). But I know of nothing so earth-shatteringly powerful and yet so
universally and unstintingly given to us as the God-given power available in
every one of us from our early teen years on to create a human body, that wonder
of all wonders, a genetically and spiritually unique being never seen before in
the history of the world and never to be duplicated again in all the ages of
eternity--a child, your child--with eyes and ears and fingers and toes and a
future of unspeakable grandeur.
Imagine that, if you will. Veritable
teenagers--and all of us for many decades thereafter--carrying daily, hourly,
minute-to-minute, virtually every waking and sleeping moment of our lives, the
power and the chemistry and the eternally transmitted seeds of life to grant
someone else her second estate, someone else his next level of development in
the divine plan of salvation. I submit to you that no power, priesthood or
otherwise, is given by God so universally to so many with virtually no control
over its use except self-control. And I submit to you that you will
never be more like God at any other time in this life than when you are
expressing that particular power. Of all the titles he has chosen for
himself, Father is the one he declares, and Creation is his
watchword--especially human creation, creation in his image. His glory isn't a
mountain, as stunning as mountains are. It isn't in sea or sky or snow or
sunrise, as beautiful as they all are. It isn't in art or technology, be that a
concerto or computer. No, his glory--and his grief--is in his children. You and
I, we are his prized possessions, and we are the earthly evidence, however
inadequate, of what he truly is. Human life--that is the greatest of God's
powers, the most mysterious and magnificent chemistry of it all--and you and I
have been given it, but under the most serious and sacred of restrictions. You
and I who can make neither mountain nor moonlight, not one raindrop nor a single
rose--yet we have this greater gift in an absolutely unlimited way. And the only
control placed on us is self-control--self-control born of respect for the
divine sacramental power it is.
Surely God's trust in us to respect this
future-forming gift is awesomely staggering. We who may not be able to repair a
bicycle nor assemble an average jigsaw puzzle--yet with all our weaknesses and
imperfections, we carry this procreative power that makes us very much like God
in at least one grand and majestic way.
Souls. Symbols. Sacraments. Does any of this help you understand why
human intimacy is such a serious matter? Why it is so right and rewarding and
stunningly beautiful when it is within marriage and approved of God (not just
"good" but "very good," he declared to Adam and Eve), and so
blasphemously wrong--like unto murder--when it is outside such a covenant? It is
my understanding that we park and pet and sleep over and sleep with at the peril
of our very lives. Our penalty may not come on the precise day of our
transgression, but it comes surely and certainly enough, and were it not for a
merciful God and the treasured privilege of personal repentance, far too many
would even now be feeling that hellish pain, which (like the passion we have
been discussing) is also always described in the metaphor of fire.
Someday, somewhere, sometime the morally unclean will, until they repent, pray
like the rich man, wishing Lazarus to "dip . . . his finger in water, and cool
my tongue; for I am tormented in this flame" (Luke 16:24).
Some say
the world will end in fire,
Some say in ice.
From what I've tasted of
desire
I hold with those who favor fire.
In closing, consider this
from two students of civilization's long, instructive story:
No one
man [or woman], however brilliant or well-informed, can come in one
lifetime to such fullness of understanding as to safely judge and dismiss the
customs or institutions of his society, for these are the wisdom of generations
after centuries of experiment in the laboratory of history. A youth boiling with
hormones will wonder why he should not give full freedom to his sexual desires;
and if he is unchecked by custom, morals, or laws, he may ruin his life [or
hers] before he matures sufficiently to understand that sex is a river of
fire that must be banked and cooled by a hundred restraints if it is not to
consume in chaos both the individual and the group. [Will and Ariel Durant,
The Lessons of History (New York: Simon and Schuster, 1968), pp.
35-36]
Or, in the more ecclesiastical words of James E.
Talmage:
It has been declared in the solemn word of revelation, that
the spirit and the body constitute the soul of man; and, therefore, we should
look upon this body as something that shall endure in the resurrected state,
beyond the grave, something to be kept pure and holy. Be not afraid of soiling
its hands; be not afraid of scars that may come to it if won in earnest effort,
or [won] in honest fight, but beware of scars that disfigure, that have
come to you in places where you ought not have gone, that have befallen you in
unworthy undertakings [pursued where you ought not have been]; beware of
the wounds of battles in which you have been fighting on the wrong side.
[Talmage, CR, October 1913, p. 117]
I love you for wanting to be
on the right side of the gospel of Jesus Christ. I express my pride in and
appreciation for your faithfulness. As I said earlier, you are an absolute
inspiration to me. I consider it the greatest of all professional privileges to
be associated with you at this university at a time in your lives when you are
finalizing what you believe and forging what your future will be.
If some
few of you are feeling the "scars . . . that have come to you in places where
you ought not have gone," I wish to extend to you the special peace and promise
available through the atoning sacrifice of the Lord Jesus Christ. I testify of
his love and of the restored gospel principles and ordinances which make that
love available to us with all their cleansing and healing power. I testify of
the power of these principles and ordinances, including complete and redeeming
repentance, which are only fully realized in this the true and living church of
the true and living God. That we may "come unto Christ" for the fullness of soul
and symbol and sacrament he offers us, I pray in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.