Leadership and self deception

Place: Zagrum

People: Bud Jefferson, Kate Stenarude, Tom Callum

Lou ____________.

Problem: “Self-deception”

When I betrayed myself, I enter the box – I become self-deceived.

1-Inflate others faults.

2-Inflate own virtue. If

3-Inflate value of thing that justifies self-betrayal.

4-Blame

Out of Box

“I see myself and others more or less as we are – as people”.

In the Box

“I see myself and others in the systematically distorted way – others are mere objects”.

(p.35)

Self betrayal: choice –Honor it -Betray it (Self-betrayal)

How we see self How we see others

Victim lazy

Hardworking inconsiderate

Important unappreciative

Fair insensitive

Sensitive faker

Good dad lousy mom

Good husband lousy wife

(p.70)

“Self-betrayal”

1. “An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another is called an act of self-betrayal.”

2. “When I betray myself, I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal.”

3. “When I see a self just to find world, my view of reality becomes distorted.”

4. “So -- when I betray myself, I enter the box.

5. “Over time, certain boxes become characteristics of me, and I carry them with me.”

6. “By being in the box, I provoke others to be in the box.”

7. “In the box, we invite mutual mistreatment and obtain mutual justification. We colluded in giving each other reasons to stay in the box.”

Lack of commitment, lack of engagement, trouble making, conflict (contention), lack of motivation, stress, poor teamwork, backbiting/bad attitudes, misalignment, lack of accountability, communication problems (p. 151).