Always Remember
What You Are Trying To Become in the End!

It is imperative that in building an eternal marriage, both partners must always remember what they are trying to become in the end. President Gordon B. Hinckley (1910-2008) stated the overall objective of the gospel:

The whole design of the gospel is to lead us, onward and upward to greater achievement, even, eventually, to godhood. This great possibility was enunciated by the Prophet Joseph Smith in the King Follet sermon (see Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, pp. 342-62) and emphasized by President Lorenzo Snow. It is a grand and incomparable concept: As God now is, man may become! (See The Teachings of Lorenzo Snow, comp. Clyde J. Williams, Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1984, p. 1) (From "Don't Drop the Ball," Ensign, Nov. 1994, p. 48).

President Brigham Young (1801-77) taught we are in a process of becoming Gods:

The Lord created you and me for the purpose of becoming Gods like himself; when we have been proved in our present capacity, and have been faithful with all things he puts into our possession. (Discourses of Brigham Young [1954], p.57; emphasis added)

Essential to our progress to becoming God's is marriage.  The Lord has declared: "And again, verily I say unto you, if a man marry a wife by my word, which is my law, and by the new and everlasting covenant" and endure vailiantly in that marriage, "Then shall they be gods" (D&C 132:19-20). 

The Church has declared that the purpose of mortality is to help us become like God:

<>Because of God’s love for us, He prepared a plan that included our coming to the earth, where we would receive bodies and be tested so that we could progress and become more like Him.(Handbook Two: Administering the Church, [2010], 1.1.2; emphasis added)

Indeed, the Final Judgment will be based upon what we have become in the end:

Each of us is accountable before God to learn and keep His commandments and to live the gospel. We will be judged according to our actions, the desires of our hearts, and the kind of people we have become. As we become true followers of Jesus Christ, we experience a mighty change of heart and “have no more disposition to do evil” (Mosiah 5:2; see also Alma 5:12–15; Moroni 10:32–33). As we live the gospel of Jesus Christ, we grow line upon line, becoming more like the Savior in loving and serving others.  (Handbook Two: Administering the Church, [2010], 1.2.1; emphasis added)

Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Aposltes explained that family relationships are the best way that we can learn to become like God:

From such teachings we conclude that the Final Judgment is not just an evaluation of a sum total of good and evil acts--what we have done. It is an acknowledgment of the final effect of our acts and thoughts--what we have become. It is not enough for anyone just to go through the motions. The commandments, ordinances, and covenants of the gospel are not a list of deposits required to be made in some heavenly account. The gospel of Jesus Christ is a plan that shows us how to become what our Heavenly Father desires us to become. ...

The gospel of Jesus Christ is the plan by which we can become what children of God are supposed to become. This spotless and perfected state will result from a steady succession of covenants, ordinances, and actions, an accumulation of right choices, and from continuing repentance. "This life is the time for men to prepare to meet God" (Alma 34:32).

Now is the time for each of us to work toward our personal conversion, toward becoming what our Heavenly Father desires us to become. As we do so, we should remember that our family relationships--even more than our Church callings--are the setting in which the most important part of that development can occur. The conversion we must achieve requires us to be a good husband and father or a good wife and mother. Being a successful Church leader is not enough. Exaltation is an eternal family experience, and it is our mortal family experiences that are best suited to prepare us for it. ("The Challenge to Become," Ensign, Nov. 2000, pp. 32-34; emphasis added)

In 1832, Joseph Smith (1805-44) revealed that those who obtained exaltation in the celestial kingdom are "priests and kings" (D&C 76:56).  In 1844 he explained that this was a process through which each learned godhood:

Here, then, is eternal life – to know the only wise and true God; and you have got to learn how to be Gods yourselves, and to be kings and priests to God, the same as all Gods have done before you, namely, by going from one small degree to another, and from a small capacity to a great one; from grace to grace, from exaltation to exaltation, until you attain to the resurrection of the dead, and are able to dwell in everlasting burnings, and to sit in glory, as do those who sit enthroned in everlasting power. (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith [1974], p.345-346)

We have been taught the learning to be a "priest and king" is a purpose of parenthood.  President Hugh B. Brown (1883-1975) of the First Presidency explained:

When a man and woman undertake to build a home--not merely a house--and rear a family, they lay the foundation of what may become an eternal and ever-increasing kingdom, over which they may preside as king and queen forever. . .
Celestial Marriage enables worthy parents to perform a transcendentally beautiful and vital service as priest and priestess in the temple of the home.  This training will help to prepare them for the exalted position of king and queen in the world to come, where they may reign over their posterity in an ever-expanding kingdom.  (You and Your Marriage [1960], pp. 191, 193)

What a glorious possibilities lay within the reach of all who enter into the sacred marriage relationship and remember what they are trying to become. President John Taylor urged us never to forget  the aim of our marriage:

Have you forgotten who you are, and what your object is? Have you forgotten that you profess to be Saints of the Most High God, clothed upon with the holy priesthood? Have you forgotten that you are aiming to become kings and priests to the Lord, and queens and priestesses to him(The Gospel Kingdom [1987], pp.229-230; emphasis added)



(There are various becomings to acheive the greatest becoming)