Doctrine of Marriage and Family
essential in building an eternal marriage that the married couple must strive for the doctrinal ideal of marriage and
In the Worldwide
Leadership Training Broadcast: Support the Family held in February
2006 sponsored by the First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve
Apostles, Elder David A. Bednar of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
We have been counseled strongly by the First Presidency to devote our best efforts to the strengthening of marriage and the home. Such instruction has never been more needed in the world than it is today, as the sanctity of marriage is attacked and the importance of the home is undermined.
Even though the Church and its programs support marriage and family and generally are successful at doing so, we should always remember this basic truth: no instrumentality or organization can take the place of the home or perform its essential functions. [See First Presidency letter, Feb. 11, 1999; or Liahona, Dec. 1999,1; Ensign, June 1999, 80] Consequently, today I will speak with you primarily as men and women, as husbands and wives, and as mothers and fathers and secondarily as priesthood and auxiliary leaders in the Church. My assignment is to discuss the essential role of eternal marriage in our Heavenly Father’s plan of happiness.
We will focus
the doctrinal ideal of marriage.
My hope is that a review of our
eternal possibilities and a reminder about who we are and why we are
here in mortality will provide direction, comfort, and sustaining hope
for us all, regardless of our marital status or personal present
circumstances. The disparity
between the doctrinal ideal of marriage and the reality of daily life
may seem at times to be quite large, but you gradually are doing and
becoming much better than you probably recognize.
Is Essential to His Eternal Plan,” Ensign, Jun 2006, 82–87;
Now, I hope this helps you understand why we talk about the pattern, the ideal, of marriage and family when we know full well that not everyone now lives in that ideal circumstance. It is precisely because many don’t have, or perhaps have never even seen, that ideal and because some cultural forces steadily move us away from that ideal, that we speak about what our Father in Heaven wishes for us in His eternal plan for His children.
Individual adaptations have to be made as marital status and family circumstances differ. But all of us can agree on the pattern as it comes from God, and we can strive for its realization the best way we can.
who are General Authorities and general officers are called to teach
His general rules. You and we then lead specific lives and must seek
the Lord’s guidance regarding specific circumstances. But
mass confusion and loss of gospel promises if no general ideal and no
doctrinal standard were established and, in our case today, repeated. We take great
strength in knowing
Lord has spoken on these matters, and we accept His counsel even when
it might not be popular.
Patterns and Specific Lives,"
Worldwide Leadership Training
Broadcast: Building Up a Rightous
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can be seen that understanding
doctrine of marriage and parenthood
is essential in building an eternal
marriage. The following are resources that will aid in
understanding the doctrines of
Julie B. Beck (General Relief Society President), “Mothers Who Know,” Ensign, Nov 2007, 76–78
Sheri L. Dew (of the General Relief Society Presidency),
“Are We Not All Mothers?”, Ensign, Nov 2001, 96
Marian Pond, “Loving the Role I Once Shunned,” Ensign, Oct 2000, 59
Jean Knight Pace, “The Joyful Surprise of Motherhood,” Ensign, Jan 2006, 54–57