Avoid Unrighteous Dominion
in Your Marriage and Family

To Eve, the Lord said, "Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee" (Ge. 3:16; Moses 4: 22). 

Often a misinterpration of this verse leads to many to misunderstand the relationship between husband and wife.   Some men to use this verse as a justficiation to exercise what the Lord called "unrighteous dominion" over their wives.

President Spencer W. Kimball (1895-1985) offered this valuable insight regarding the phrase “thy husband … shall rule over thee”:

I have a question about the word rule. It gives the wrong impression. I would prefer to use the word preside because that’s what he does. A righteous husband presides over his wife and family. (Ensign, Mar. 1976, p. 72.)

Boyd K. Packer of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles has said:

Should a man "exercise control or dominion or compulsion … in any degree of unrighteousness," … he violates "the oath and covenant which belongeth to the priesthood." … Then "the heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved." … Unless he repents he will lose his blessings. (Ensign, Nov. 1993, p. 22). 

M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles spoke of the relationship that Lord intended to exist between husband and wife:

God has revealed through his prophets that men are to receive the priesthood, become fathers, and with gentleness and pure, unfeigned love they are to lead and nurture their families in righteousness as the Savior leads the Church (see Eph. 5:23). They have been given the primary responsibility for the temporal and physical needs of the family (see D&C 83:2). Women have the power to bring children into the world and have been given the primary duty and opportunity as mothers to lead, nurture, and teach them in a loving, spiritual environment. In this divine partnership, husbands and wives support one another in their God-given capacities. By appointing different accountabilities to men and women, Heavenly Father provides the greatest opportunity for growth, service, and progress. He did not give different tasks to men and women simply to perpetuate the idea of a family; rather, He did so to ensure that the family can continue forever, the ultimate goal of our Heavenly Father’s eternal plan. (Ensign, Nov. 1993, p. 90.)

Unrightoues Dominion in Marriage and Familiy

Unrighteous Dominion in General